Friday, April 9, 2010
Accept The Uncontrollable, Run With The Controllable
There are those situations/events in our lives that we have no control over. Lets call those "uncontrollable" situations. As well as not having control over situations, we also don't have control of other people, the weather, the traffic, just to name a few. I'm sure you'll be able to come up with things you feel you have no control over as people's situations vary from one another. There are also situations you can make a change to and see results by the actions you have made to the situation. Lets call those "controllable" situations. I've learned by learning through Radical Acceptance that there are things out of our control and things we can control. We can not control other people, events, situations, but we can most importantly control ourselves. Those things we are unable to control we should learn to accept. It doesn't have to be something we accept overnight, but over a period of time when the time is right. By accepting things beyond our control, we let go of the burden we put on ourselves to try to control or change things that we can't, which will than allow us to put more of our focus as well as efforts to change and make a difference to those things we have a sense of control over. You are also lifting off the stress you put on yourself by letting go of the things you have no influence over. Why try to change the things you can't change? Why not put your efforts in those that you can change!